There are essentially a few types of threesomes: one in which there is an activity with both two men or two women of the same sex and the other type of threesome is where there is no bisexual activity between the same sex. Abbreviation for female or male placed back to back (FFM, MMF) means a threesome including bisexual contact. An acronym in which the two common letters are separated (FMF, MFM) would highlight that there is no or minimal bisexual activity.
That being said, as it is often a taboo subject, many don’t either no there is a difference, or really when it comes down to it, there isn’t a whole lot of variations between the different situations. With so much going on, passion flying around, it’s not uncommon for people to we’ll call it “experiment” with someone of the same sex.
My first experience with a bisexual FMF or FFM situation came after a drunken night in my late 20s. I had been talking to another couple I had met on a bisexual online dating site, and after a few drinks, I had just enough courage to make the trip over to their apartment complex, which was just a few miles away. Was I terrified…you bet I was, but the rush and excitement I had heard so much about was enough to keep the fear away.
We met in a public place and then drove over to the apartment complex. When I arrived, I asked to go to the restroom and when I came back out, the couple was already half-naked. She was on her knees while he sat back on the couch and watched me as I came out of the bathroom.
This was set up a little already, as, during our conversations on the online dating site, I told her and her boyfriend that I wanted her to show me how to please a man orally. She was doing just that.
I then also got down on my knees and began to follow her lead. There was no doubt he was enjoying himself and the two of them had a great relationship together. Thoughts of am I doing this right and concerns of being a homewrecker raced through my mind.
We tried all different sorts of positions, it was apparent I wasn’t the first time they have added a third into their relationship, but they also weren’t professionals either. They helped and coached me along the way.
We enjoyed each other’s company for a few hours, and finally, I packed up and left. We stay in touch with everyone in a while and gave me the confidence to seek out other similar relationships.
My recommendation for anyone considering trying a bisexual FMF for the first time is just to make sure you are comfortable with the people you are with. A few drinks for some liquid courage (not too much though) can also help.
While bisexuality is becoming more popular, don’t forget some couples prefer to keep this on the down-low. If that’s the case, be sure to honor their privacy.